E96 - RETHINK FAILURE: it's not just feedback

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How do you deal with failure? Do you have a bunch of motivational quotes to help you reframe the experience? How do you process the deep shame and anxiety you feel with it? I think we need to RETHINK FAILURE. It’s not just feedback. We need to fail with a framework.

  • Give yourself permission to fail

  • How rejection is akin to physical trauma

  • Two frameworks we need for failure: external risks like financials and safety, and one for ego and reputation.




The key frameworks:

  • Ask so you can learn.

  • Try so you can grow.

Permission Granted

Permission granted to be, indulge yourself, do the unexpected, stop with unrealistic expectations, get started, to not fit in, be alone, stop catastrophising, stop feeling sorry, break tradition, enjoy the weather.

Stories of Failure

Rejection Therapy

Desensitize yourself to failure.

Jia Jiang: 100 days of rejection

Letitia Gasca: Failure Institute

Leticia Gasca is co-founder of the movement Fuckup Nights and Executive Director for the Failure Institute, the first think tank in the world devoted to studying business failure and the reasons behind it.

Quotes about Failure

  • Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness. - Oprah Winfrey

  • Sometimes by losing a battle you find a new way to win the war. - Donald Trump
    Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. - Winston Churchill

  • I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Thomas A. Edison

  • I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying. - Michael Jordan

  • Your attitude towards failure determines your altitude after failure. - John C. Maxwell

  • There is no such thing as failure. There are only results. - Tony Robbins

  • Failure saves lives. In the airline industry, every time a plane crashes the probability of the next crash is lowered by that. The Titanic saved lives because we're building bigger and bigger ships.

  • So these people died, but we have effectively improved the safety of the system, and nothing failed in vain. - Nassim Nicholas Taleb


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