E92 - Stop Your Passive Aggressive Language Now!
Ever been told that your behaviour was having a negative impact on others? This kind of feedback is confronting! None of us intentionally try to be a jerk. And yet we might be coming across as less than our ideal selves. There are important people reading maps to be mindful of, and language patterns to navigate.
Dig below the surface and map read human emotions with this change trigger tool
Be mindful of language patterns that are aggressive and passive aggressive (3 types to avoid)
WHY you need to avoid dramatic and downplaying language
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Change triggers that cause an Amygdala Hijack:
Uncertainty, belonging-ness and being excluded, lack of fairness, overwork, threats to status, overwork. Please see the work of Australian neuroscientist David Rock for more info.
Amygdala Hijack Language Patterns:
FIGHT mode - BACK TALK: dominating, using absolutes like must, need, should, always, never, being dismissive or attacking.
FLIGHT mode - SOUR TALK: sarcasm, needling, jibes, changing the subject, or withdrawing.
FLIGHT mode - SWEET TALK: sugar coating, dancing around the issue, trying to soften the blow.
Be mindful of DRAMATIC language: hyperbole, exaggeration, emotive narrative.
And the DOWNPLAY: over simplifying or understating.
Be DIRECT instead: state the facts without emotion or exaggeration.
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